Sunday, July 26, 2009

pablo neruda- If u forget me.

the lines "Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you."

What is it in the human psyche that allows him to hold a place so high for ego? Why is it that human emotions allow room for such a vile feeling? love so pure can be diminished with such ease. Neruda claims that if he is loved less, he too will love less. Is this natural or is it being selfish. Is it hormonal to love less when one receives less attention. if one feels that things arent the same will they fight or surrender? if they will surrender then the world wont know true love. love is supposed to be the hardest fight of all, if it could be so shallow that it needs constant pushing,then is it truly love? Our judgment is so clouded by emotion that we have lost our ability to love unconditionally. Our ego has gotten so large that love is no longer that free string-less feeling it once was. Emotion not only clouds reason, but also our actions when it comes to love. Neruda's poem not only teaches me about love but it also teaches about ego. What touches me about this poem is the fact that with such simple words Neruda is able to make me think and feel so guilty for being a human because fact is that we all have ego, and it probably will come in our way before love. My friend once told me that no matter how much you care for a person ego wont let you forgive and forget a betrayal. no matter what the person has done for you, at the end of the day especially for a person with confidence like me will not be able to love the same. If a person leaves me and moves on, i wont wait for them. Truth is very few might, and even if they do, nothing will stay the same. We Percieve things as different and no matter what we do, we wont love the same again. Neruda uses language with such simplicity. He manages to sway the emotions of the readers and make us realize that our emotions are so open to swaying and how our actions can so easily be altered by emotional distress. Humans hold a position too high for ego, and that is why most will not even agree to the fact that this is the truth.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

always do what you know to be best even if it is the most difficult thing to do.”

Source: A quote by the mother, “always do what you know to be best even if it is the most difficult thing to do.”

It is not easy to always do the right thing. It comes with tension, pressure and fear. This set of emotions can make it hard for a person to listen to reason, and act in for the right. Trusting our reason and not our fear will always take us in the right direction. When we perceive an act that seems ethically wrong, it is our civic duty to put an end to it.
Doing the right thing and doing the easy thing are not always the same. Turning a blind eye to bribery could be as bad as accepting it yourself. Though it might be easier to let go of it, it is wrong. At the airport I once observed a man pay the policeman at customs a bunch of thousand rupee notes and walking out without a check. Being 17 I couldn’t do much then, but after witnessing 26/11 I cant help but wonder how wrong I was. Those could have been bags with artillery. The police turned a blind eye to the fisher-people who came to inform them about the boatloads of mysterious men to colaba. Fighting off reason, laziness caused 26/11 a disaster that could have been avoided or at least kept under control.
Sometimes the right thing might be giving up something that means most to you but one must look at the reason behind every action and not the emotional pleasure. Some believe that the reason is that actions bring emotional pleasure but those acts do not bring abut positive results in the long run. After the Indians saw what British rule in India was doing to its economy, there was a need to revolt. The easier way out would have been to ignore the fact that matters were going from bad to worse and that the generations to come would probably be slaves, and to enjoy the freedoms the people had at that time. If that had been done, then India nor the world would be the way it was today. Revolutionaries like Mangal Pandey saw the need to fix this mess, and gave up the most precious thing to any person, their lives. They did the right thing to make our lives simpler. It mustn’t have been easy, but it is because of the sacrifice of people like that, that today an Indian can be the boss of a British man in a company.
What the mother is propagating through this quote is something that everyone should follow. Only if we strive to do the right thing, will the world be a better place. Good things never come easy and that is why they come with a sense of pride. Even the small things do matter. We must always remain unaffected by the fear that comes with fighting evil and wrong. As the mother also said, “it is only when we are not disturbed that we can always do the right thing at the right time in the right way.”

Monday, July 20, 2009

forever young.

“Hoping for the best but expecting the worst.” –youth group in the song forever young.

The line that appealed most to me was, “hoping for the best but expecting the worst.” It has been like my motto ever since I first heard this song. Whenever in anticipation of something to come, I always keep this in mind. It is like a consolation and warning to prevent the flow of too much emotion. It is a logical way of maintaining a mind set that will prepare a person to face the bad times, without making them too much of pessimists. Believing in what this line is trying to teach us makes us realists. There is a need for reason to keep a check on emotion and by ‘hoping for the best but expecting the worst, we make ourselves do just that.
I perceive life to be a mixture of good and bad things. I believe that every event has at least two possible outcomes, one good and one bad. A person must always live hoping and keeping faith that the best outcome will prevail. Yet the person must not sit back waiting for good things to come to them. They must prepare for the worst, make an effort to get the best and only then it will come to them. Though I am a firm believer that one must strive to get what one wants, there are things out of our control and in those cases this line should be one’s only rule.
26/11 is considered to be one of the most tragic events of contemporary Indian history. Information of unlicensed boats docking at Cuffe parade was given to the police. Threats had been made in past as well. The police should have heightened security and stayed prepared hoping that guns wouldn’t need to be fired. Instead, sitting back expecting the best, few terrorists were able to take hotels, a building and a hospital hostage for 3 days. If man prepared for the worst then history would be written differently. Scientifically, weather can be foretold tornadoes and storms can not be prevented, but instead of just giving warnings, preparations must be made to prevent extensive damage. This way the casualties and the destruction could be kept to a minimum.
Expecting the worst isn’t being negative but being realistic. One might argue that it pulls the emotions down, but taking the few cases when the preparations came to no use and the best outcome prevailed would be confirmation bias. Its always better to be safe than sorry as people say.

Michael Jackson.

Source: amul butter ad on Michael Jackson.

The ad reads black or white, all are fans, followed by Amul butter, you just can’t beat it. Black or white is one of Michael’s songs, which is anti racism. Beat it is another song by him where he sings about overcoming any obstacle that comes in your way. The motive being to always “beat it”. The ad on the Amul billboard is a response to the death of this great legend, but what the ad means is different from what the songs originally were meant to mean. The black and white reference was to show that all races love the butter and the beat it reference was to show that Amul is the best nothing can “beat it”. Yet there is a second meaning, which is that Blacks and whites were all fans of Jackson, but no one can beat or cheat death.
This billboard shows how everything is open to our perception’s interpretation. While I asked my mother her view on the board she said that it was a tribute to him and they used random lyrics to promote the selling of Amul, yet I believe the additional reason was praising Jackson and paying respects to him. Some might even say the you cant beat it was mocking his lyrics because he preached beat it, but he himself couldn’t beat death. The idea behind this board is to entertain the masses and to promote Amul so that more people purchase it. All ads are designed to attract the eye of the observer and tempt him into buying the certain product. Most ads are false. The shampoos that promise no hair fall, and the creams that promise the disappearance of all acne. Ads are all meant to please the eye and gain revenue for the company responsible for the ad.
Companies attempt to hit the emotion of the viewers. They use many techniques by making their ads sentimental and touching, some use celebrities to promote their product, some use comedy, and some use cartoons. The motive is to win emotion in such a manner that logic and reason play a backseat in the choosing of what products to buy. People spend thousands of rupees on belts that promise to build abs, but none of that ever truly happens. It is just the way to sell a product.
The language used in the ads is very important. They must be to the point. The body language, the acting, the punch line all must be designed to captivate the audience. It shouldn’t be too long, yet never too short. The Amul ad hits the emotions of all his fans, and manages to make them smile and miss him, yet reminding them that maul is entertaining and probably a good butter. Amul ads have always been funny and they actually have managed to make me enjoy reading them and eating the butter that cant be “beat”.

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Chapter 4 of the little prince

Chapter number 4 reflection.

Of all the chapters in the book this one appealed most to me. It is laden with truth, so innocently pure, that one cant help but see the meaning of this. A book that might seem funny to a child is actually meaningful to me. From all the chapters this I perceived to be the best.
The narrator of the book talks about the planet the little prince comes from. It is a small asteroid; seen only once by a Turkish astronomer through a telescope. When the man introduced his discovery to the IAC, they rejected his knowledge. But when he did the same presentation in European clothes, his ideas were accepted and he became world-renowned. The narrator points out that grown-ups are like that. This part of the chapter is what really interested me. While a child would read this as something funny that the author randomly put in, I see it as a mockery of human mentality. A subtle still obvious criticism of racism; and the worst part is that we see this everywhere we go. Doctors are taken more seriously is they are not from the Arab origin. The most common place we do see this is at the airport. A man with a Muslim surname will be taken in for questioning. A person with a long beard will be looked at with fear, while a Muslim man in a suit will not, or will probably get one look. If an Arab man in Arab clothes stands next to an Arab man in a reputed suit, all eyes will be on the man in Arab clothes. This is our mentality. It is what we have let ourselves become. Emotion has taken over our ability to reason out, and we perceive all Arab men to be inferior and give them no attention. We speak condescendingly to them, and make them rise in anger. We feel the emotional loss when they act; but do we question why they act? Yes some Arab people act with violence, but so do some Hindus and some Jews and Christians.
The world’s population seems to be turning so narrow minded. It I so common that an Author actually writes about it in a children’s book. This is how inhumane we have become that the few smart people will talk straight to the children who can still be trusted with some hope. The so-called leading youth and the often-called old and wise generations of our times seem to think they are always right. The way they go about things, the generalizations they have made. According to me, forget the same mental level, it doesn’t even seem likely that were all living on the same planet anymore. The ways people think are so twisted that I actually loathe the little prince who has the luck to go back to a planet so far away from this one. A planet that could only be seen by this wretched Earth once.
The narrator goes on to talk about grown-up responses to a child making a new friend. It is usually about his age and his financial backing. Parents ask their kinds things about a child’s parents’ professions. They often even ask which caste the boy belongs to. It is never really about the personality of the boy, it is about his credentials. It is like an interview parents take to approve of their children’s friends.
When in comes to houses, a house is no longer judged by what is in it. It is priced. It is labeled to be top of the line, or as good as a slum. Everything theses days has a label. A label rich, a label Muslim, a label unworthy, a label terrorist! Enough! How long can we be so oblivious to the harm we are inflicting upon none other than ourselves. The narrator says that it mustn’t be held against them, but it should. People must be held accountable for the sins they commit. What man has been doing, this categorizing, it is nothing but a sin. Children see no colour, they see no thickness of wallets and brands of clothes. They see heart, they see the truth.
Most adults wouldn’t even understand the purpose of the narrator’s book. they would see it as just an entertaining story for children; but its more, its way more than that. It is to remind him, everyday of the lesson and the symbol of the little prince. The little prince was freedom. Freedom from the pain and suffering, freedom from the oblivion and mob mentality. The narrator writes his story to remind himself of what he never wants to become like. He writes it to remind him of what the grown-ups did to him when he wanted to paint. He writes to share his story with us, hoping that some will see what he is trying so hard to say.
Man has reached the day where he sees everything in black or white. It is about the money, it is about the safety. There is no middle line; a line of compromise with humanity. We have denatured into rocks and stones, with hard hearts. We call ourselves humans, but it seems that with everyday, we lose every last ounce of humanity left within us. man says evolution is still occurring, but according to me, we seem t be going backward. We need to find the grey. The middle between the black and white. We need to find our humanity and hind a way to go soft again.
The little prince is one woman’s cry to the hardening of mankind. It is her own lesson and a lesson for others. Living on Earth the narrator could not see the sheep through the holes, because with the sickness of the Earth, the spread to even the purist sanest minds is inevitable. This needs to stop before its too late, and this is what the author is trying to do, and this is what I learnt form this one chapter. What have we become; are we really proud to call our selves the most evolved superior living species?

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Appy Fizz add 22nd april.

Today for the first time i saw the new Appy Fizz add. In this add the new drink Grappo fizz cracks a joke, and when Appy fizz feeling left out and bad tries cracking one of his own, no body laughs and all his original friends leave the room along with Grappo Fizz. This add made me really sad. I felt bad for Appy Fizz. Even though Appy is just an inanimate object, i could see the jealousy and the neglect that Apy felt. It is only natural.
Appy's portayed feelings managed to create a feeling of apathy in me. We see this happen so often. If we aren't the victims, we are party to the mockery, or we are the reason for the sadness of the other. This emotional truame is bad for everyone because it creates feelings of hate. It maes a person hate the thing that made them lose the attention or stay away from people to prevent themselves from gettign hurt. this fallicious reasoning leads to an actions that could harm others, and emotional language and very often it strngthens the feelings. If somethign further pushes down the ego of a person, they become even more emotional.
People are sensitive and we all must make an effort to perevnt this happening. I'm a true believer of the thought that 'what goes around comes around' and when it does indeed inevitably come around, it will come with regret and an accelerated amount of pain. Such a silly add managed to arrouse my emotions and got me thinking. The power of language is very well seen by this fact. I perceived this from a simple add and I got thinking in such depth making my belief even stronger. is there really a reason as to why we let another person feel low? it it really needed to push one person down to make another person feel special?

Intuition 20th april.

whose intuitions should you trust? are some people's intuitions better than other?
Well according to me, an intuition is something personal. It comes from within and has no true reason behind it. though people may share the same intuition, when it comes to trust, i am the only person whose intuitions i can trust. while i might believe in the Intuition of others, it is not the same feeling i get from within. though it is true to say that when a person who knows me has an intuitive feeling against a person who might hurt me in the future i will listen and stay wary of them, i know that on hearing another's gut feeling i will reason out a possible explaination of why that feeling might be true before pulling myself away from that person. When it comes to trusting an intuition it depends on who it comes from. it is a person you Intuitively feel is a perceptive person, then trusting them would be smarter that to trust a person who doesnt seem very perceotive. Therefore i feel primary trust can only come from my intuitive feelings.

If something is intuitively obvious must everybody agree about it?
There was a time where it was intuitively obvious that the white man was superior to the Black man. For years Africans were treated as objects that were sold and bought. they were slaves and treated no worthier than posessions. Though this was the case to white men, the black man did not agree. To him he was not destined to live this tyranny-bound life. Though societies have intuitions that they might believe, everybody need not agree with it. Muslims believe they are superior to all man, and that was the same with the Aryan race. While a Muslim or an Aryan can believe this, another person need not.

Is the anythign that everybody agees about?
acoording to me, this is to broad a question. While there a million things people disagree about, there are things that everyone agrees about. these are the factual things of existence. Things like the Earth is round, and the Sun is hot, things that the Earth revolves around the Sun and Matter exists are all things that all people believe in. But there are things that will never be agreed upon. Things like the exsitence of God, the creation of the world, the bad in killing a human, and even the Taliban being bad are htings that every peron will never agree upon.

Could you be wrong to think that something is Intuitively obvious?
While many gut feelings and hoped intuitions did not come out right, it is not wrogn to think that soemhtign is intutively obvious for it might just be. Intuitions are natural. We have them everyday. we wake up thinking if the day will go of well or not. But many a time intuitions can go wrong. trusting a person because it seems obvious that they will never hurt you can often be a mistake for something can happen that makes that person change, and then you might get hurt.

Might you one day come to see that something you tought was intuitively obvious is in fact a deep rooted prejudice?
i had a fixed belief, a feeling that love could never exist free from lust and passion. since me early teens i always believed this, but after hearing a story about my great grand parents and their love, i saw that love can exist. just with one story my preconvceived notion vanished and some sort of hope in the system of love took over me. maybe love truly can exist. If not for all, then atleast for some.